Lesbian Identity Crisis

Currently I'm having what I've affectionately dubbed my little "lesbian identity crisis". It's been happening for the last few months.

I just feel like I don't know a lot of things. I'm sure it's all a normal part of coming out (and being 21 years old). All of my life I just assumed I was straight (oh how did I not figure this out sooner?) and I guess that sort of filtered the way I acted and the things I assumed that I'd be expected to do.

Except now I'm not expected to do ANY of those things (well maybe a few, but still). On one hand, it's like I'm free to do whatever I want...but on the other hand how am I supposed to know what it is that I want? I'm just a kid? Wait I'm 21. People always tell me how together I am but sometimes I just feel like an insecure mess.

You know in high school all the time you spend testing out different "identities". There's the punk phase and the preppy phase and on and on. You cycle through friends and activities and hobbies until you figure out what fits you. I feel like I need to do that again. Like the time I spent trying vainly to be interested in boys needs to be spent doing other things. But what things?

I feel the need to find community and make friends with other lesbians. But I don't really know any...which of course makes things a little difficult. But this is an entirely different issue (and another post).

I just feel the need to be different. To metamorphosize. To evolve. To have a tangible difference between my "straight life" and my "gay life". I feel like there should be a dividing line or something.

Idk. I feel like I've been rambling on without a thought to cohesion or anything of the sort.

And so this is sort of why I cut my hair. I think getting your hair cut can be very cleansing. Therapeutic. A physical difference between the person you are and the person you were?

Meh. I think I should stop rambling about this now...maybe more another day.
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I cut my hair!!!

Lately I've been having what I've affectionately dubbed my "lesbian identity crisis". It's a pretty long angsty story, but for now we'll just talk about my hair.

I was pretty over it. It was super long and blonde and I never really did anything with it. About 90% of the time it went in a ponytail and it didn't really look that amazing. Don't get me wrong, I have thick gorgeous hair that's wavy but not curly. This means that it curls really well, straightens pretty well, and looks decent if I just put some goo in it and let it dry. I have fantastic hair but I just never did much with it. Anyone who has super thick hair knows that takes forever to get dry. Add this to the length and it's tangly and a mess.

So I google imaged some people who had hair that I liked. My biggest hair inspiration is Leisha Hailey. I love her hair!!! It looks good long. It looks good short. It looks good curly. It looks good in pigtails. It looks good. Period.

I decided I was ready to get rid of some of the length (ok, a lot of it really) and found some pics to take to my hair girl (Dani...who is amazing). Pics:




The next day I call and get a hair appointment. Excitement!!! She got me in on the same day (yesterday)! I showed her the pictures and she told me that it wasn't really going to look like the picture because of my thick hair (ugh blessing + pain in the ass!). She thought she could do something similar but a little longer and I trust her so I said go for it.

So this was my hair last week...


...and this is my hair today!


It's a little more Paige than Alice...


...but I like it a LOT!

What do you think?
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